Separation/Divorce Mediation Checklist

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The following issues are often discussed in a mediation involving a separation or a divorce.  Please bring any relevant information with you to the mediation to help with decisions (i.e., information regarding bills, debts, value of assets, retirement plans, insurance, etc.).

Parenting Arrangements:

1.  Legal Custody (who makes major decisions about the children regarding education, religion, and major healthcare issues)

2.  Physical Custody (the times the children will spend with each parent)

  • Weekdays
  • Weekends
  • Childcare plans
  • Extracurricular activities
  • Holidays
  • Birthdays
  • Summers
  • Extended vacation times
  • Travel plans
  • Temporary changes to plan

3.  Communication (telephone, email)

  • Between parents
  • Between parents and children

4.  Spousal Support and Expenses:

  • Spousal Support:  amount; method; time
  • Health insurance
  • Life insurance
  • Pension plans
  • Educational expenses
  • Housing expenses
  • Legal expenses

5.  Child Support and Expenses:

  • Child support:  amount; method; time
  • Health insurance
  • Medical expenses not covered by insurance
  • Childcare expenses
  • Tax deductions
  • Life insurance beneficiaries
  • School/college expenses
  • Expenses for extras: activities, birthday parties, non-essential items

6.  Equitable Distribution of Property: 

  • Determine value of assets and liabilities
  •  House/property
  •  Property expenses (mortgage, utilities, taxes)
  •  Household furnishings
  •  Motor vehicles (payments, insurance, expenses)
  •  Savings/checking accounts
  •  Investments/stocks
  •  Credit card and other consumer debt
  •  Personal debt
  •  Insurance (cash value)
  •  Tax refunds or payments due
  •  Inheritance
  •   Bankruptcy
  •   Business

7.  Other

  •  Moving
  •  Communication
  •  Legal expenses
  •  Resolving future disputes