Separation/Divorce Mediation Checklist

Child Custody, Visitation and Support | Separation and Divorce | Eldercare | Parent-Teen

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The following issues are often discussed in a mediation involving a separation or a divorce. Please bring any relevant information with you to the mediation to help with decisions (i.e., information regarding bills, debts, value of assets, retirement plans, insurance, etc.).

Parenting Arrangements:

1. Legal Custody (who makes major decisions about the children regarding education, religion, and major healthcare issues)

2. Physical Custody (the times the children will spend with each parent)

  • Weekdays
  • Weekends
  • Childcare plans
  • Extracurricular activities
  • Holidays
  • Birthdays
  • Summers
  • Extended vacation times
  • Travel plans
  • Temporary changes to plan

3. Communication (telephone, email)

  • Between parents
  • Between parents and children

4. Spousal Support and Expenses:

  • Spousal Support: amount; method; time
  • Health insurance
  • Life insurance
  • Pension plans
  • Educational expenses
  • Housing expenses
  • Legal expenses

5. Child Support and Expenses:

  • Child support: amount; method; time
  • Health insurance
  • Medical expenses not covered by insurance
  • Childcare expenses
  • Tax deductions
  • Life insurance beneficiaries
  • School/college expenses
  • Expenses for extras: activities, birthday parties, non-essential items

6. Equitable Distribution of Property:

  • Determine value of assets and liabilities
  • House/property
  • Property expenses (mortgage, utilities, taxes)
  • Household furnishings
  • Motor vehicles (payments, insurance, expenses)
  • Savings/checking accounts
  • Investments/stocks
  • Credit card and other consumer debt
  • Personal debt
  • Insurance (cash value)
  • Tax refunds or payments due
  • Inheritance
  • Bankruptcy
  • Business

7. Other

  • Moving
  • Communication
  • Legal expenses
  • Resolving future disputes